Tuesday, May 13, 2014

And the Sorbet

Do you remember the last time you went to a French restaurant?  Even if you have never been to one, I’m sure you have at least heard of the art of fine dining and French cuisine.  In the little town where I went to college, a small, quaint, and historic restaurant stood on Main Street, called Au Petit Paris.  Every year on parents’ weekend, Mom and Dad took me there for dinner.  What a treat!  My first taste of escargot, lobster bisque, and frog legs smoothly passed my pallet like a blanket of decadent, delightful deliciousness.  I’ll admit you have to be somewhat adventurous to eat at a place like that.  But, I’ll never forget how special that restaurant made me feel.  With five courses to relish, we knew we’d have to carve out some major time to take it all in.  The French never eat fast! 

One thing that surprised me…. Sorbet in between the first and second course!  I thought, “Why would we have dessert after the first course?” 

Then my father explained, “Sorbet cleanses the pallet.  It helps us digest what we just ate.  And, it is supposed to help us get ready for the next course.”

That makes total sense!  And, it was tasty, too.

Years later, I often think of those wonderful evenings with my parents.  Unfortunately, the restaurant is closed now.  But, the flavor of the food still remains; just like the words of a good book; or a blockbuster movie; or a motivational seminar.  How can we help our words remain in the hearts of our audience?

It’s all about the sorbet!  When you finish a story or a point in your message, do you allow your audience to digest what you just said before you move onto the next point?  If you don’t, you’re allowing an incredibly valuable tool to slip away:  the PAUSE.  I call it a “sorbet moment.”

When you finish one point in your message, allow your audience to take a bite of sorbet.  This will give them a chance to digest what you just said so they are ready to move onto the next point with you.  Otherwise, one of two things will happen:  either they will be too busy trying to imprint what you just said.  Or, they’ll simply forget it all together in an effort to stay with you as you move forward.  Either way, you’ll lose them.

Think about this:  have you ever had a restaurant server bring you the next course before you were finished with the first one?  How did that make you feel?  Rushed?  Hustled?  Unimportant?  If you deliver your second point without giving your audience time to digest the first one, they’ll feel the same way.  Pause often;  Pause longer; Pause for sorbet.

Keep Powering Up!


Liza

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Three Days


Photo: Darren LaCroix...A-OK!!!
Darren LaCroix
What happens three days AFTER you hear a presentation?  Did anything stick that inspired you to make a change?  What about your own audience?  Do you hear from anyone three days AFTER you speak?

This past weekend, I had the fortune of attending a key note presentation given by a man who has profoundly changed the way I even THINK about speaking… let alone speaking itself:  Darren LaCroix, the 2001 World Champion of Public Speaking.  My greatest takeaway from his speech was Three Days.  The most important part of your speech is not the opening; not the closing; not even the body!  But, the message that the audience takes away… and what they do with it THREE days later.

Well, here we are… the third day after Darren's speech.  What do I find in my inbox this morning?  An article he wrote… and not just any article.  One that centers around the opening of MY speech at the District International Speech Contest!  That got me thinking…  my contest run is done for this year… what do I focus on now???  Darren’s voice popped into my head..


“Liza, how many times have I told you???  Stage Time!  Stage Time!  Stage Time!!”

Photo: Second place feels GOOD!!!  Thank you all for sending good thoughts and prayers!Gasp!  That's it!!!  I told my husband I'm going "back to school."  Back to the basics.  Of all the at-home study programs and books I purchased about public speaking, I haven't FINISHED one!  Not one!  My husband's response?   "Why?"

I said, "Because I want to get better."

He quipped, "You already are better."

I replied, "But, I want to get MORE better."  {Please don't kill me for butchering the grammar on that one}

I had such a deep connection with the audience last weekend, I almost didn't care about the results... almost (hey 2nd is not bad!).    I absolutely adored the experience I had on stage.  But, why wait a whole YEAR???  Yes, I have my Toastmasters Club.. and, sure I can join more clubs if I want.  But, I think a different direction might be in order....

Finishing those books and at-home study projects is great... but it CAN'T stop there...

Darren told us a story about Patricia Fripp, CSP, CPAE (in my opinion one of the BEST female public speakers on the planet!) and  how she got started by speaking at her local Rotary Club... now, she is fulfilling her dream helping others become better.

So, guess what?  I've already reached out to my local Rotary Club leaders to try and do the same!  And, that's just the start... my home town supports other groups, too:  Lions, Eagles, Chamber of Commerce, and, VFW (ok, I might not be able to relate to THAT one right away... but it's worth a shot!!!).

Now that I have a path forward, I can see where my growth can lead me.  What is yours?  What did you hear three days ago that has changed YOUR perspective?  Have you started something that you never FINISHED?  Go FINISH IT!!!

And, the next presentation you prepare, remember that what is most important about your speech is NOT what you do on stage... it's what your audience does THREE DAYS LATER...

Have a great day!  and Keep Powering Up!